Brought earplugs to the Slayer/Slipknot/Mastodon/MachineHead concert…
haha only now am I learning to maybe throw some earpugls in every once in a while
That concert was so brutal in terms of sound level. I was in the pit and people were using cigarette filters as earplugs. That’s how loud it was. I’m pretty sure that’s why I have mild tinnitus now.
cigarette filters for earplugs is wild
That was all we had.
I went to a Death Grips concert (my first “real” concert) and got in super early, so I ended up in front leaning against the guard rails right in front of a speaker. I only had one ear plug because my friend lost his pair, and god damn the speakers felt like canons against my ears but I wasn’t about to move because I had a great spot with nobody in between me and MC Ride.
I ran into another friend of mine on my way out of the building, and my ears were so bad I couldn’t understand a word he said lol. Shit was wild, 10/10 would do it again
Less fucking about, more fucking
(1) work out, (2) ditch an extremely toxic relationship without ever looking back, (3) have more fun, (4) buy aapl.
Stuff that would theoretically have been possible, in no particular order:
- develop better study & time management skills so college doesn’t kick my ass nearly so badly
- walk on to the college’s cross country team. After all, it was a D3 school, they’ll take just about anyone. Would’ve been a great way to avoid putting on 60 pounds in school.
- spend more time taking advantage of the free therapy sessions in the student health center and maybe God forbid not fall as far into the pit of depression
All of this. Wish I had applied myself and found someone to tell me constant criticism for making mistakes isn’t normal.
Had more sex and opposed my parents making me do so much religious junk with my time.
Warn my boyfriend he had a brain tumor while still possible to treat
Stop trying so hard to get laid. I could have had better relationships if I’d just stopped making that my goal.
But those teenage boy hormones hit hard and that’s literally all I could think about back then.
Worry less about grades and academic performance, met my actual therapist back then so I could understand more about myself through exploration of my own self.
Hug my dad more if I knew he would be gone in a few years. Miss him everyday.
Hit the gym brother. Instead of starting my work out journey now in my 30s.
I was fortunate enough to have had a fast metabolism through out my 20s but starting a workout habit earlier would’ve helped maintain it better.
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Get tested and subsequently treated for ADHD.
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Dump the ex I was dating around that time instead of letting her take up two years of my life that I wont get back.
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Pay more attention to the people that actually put effort into their friendship/relationship with me and drop the ones that didn’t.
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Work out more and eat better.
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Socialize as much as I could while living in the dorms.
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Either join or create study groups.
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Wish I had gotten diagnosed with adhd. Earlier would have been better, but really it was college and early 20s where it hurt me the most (ie the period of time where I no longer had my parents managing my calendar, and before my wife and I started divvying up personal and household tasks based on our strengths)
This hits hard. I was 29. My daughter was 3 and my god, I wish I was diagnosed earlier. After that it still took me several years to get a hold of my life.
I wish I would have came out of the closet immediately instead of being in two marriages that really sucked because I was confused about what I wanted and I didn’t want to ostracize myself from my family and peers.
Fuck, that felt good to get out
Go to a therapy
I wish I had a solid social network and gone straight to university. Your social network is a vital part of life. I was in an advanced K-12 primary school and wish I had been born to intelligent atheists who valued intelligence. I had teachers that all but wanted to fight my parents about how they neglected my potential, but I had no context to really understand what all that meant.
Tried dancing with that girl at the prom who actually wanted to dance with me. Yeah the music was loud, but I should have tried anyway. (Even not knowing how.)
Eventually I learned better how to talk/interact with women and even married a great one, but I do wonder how my life would be different if I had earlier what little skill I have now.