It’s not that I don’t have anyone to talk to, it’s that I don’t have anything to talk about with others, and sometimes it happens that it’s impossible to endure that loneliness and I want to socialize so badly, and I don’t want to drink alcohol or watch shows on Netflix to drown out that feeling, because lately it hasn’t helped. I wonder how you deal with it?
I pay rent to my landlord and go work for my boss. Far to much human interaction on my plate for this guy.
I’ve been there. For me, personally, the problem was that I was so afraid to open up and worshipped so much other people that I pretty much lost myself. I ended up being surrounded by people who aren’t interested in me, who don’t fit me. And then when I started discovering myself, opening up more and being more sincere, I just attracted the right people who I always know what to talk about and who are interested in me. But this is of course my personal experience, your situation might be entirety different.
Why don’t you have a cat or dog ?
Talk to the people you know about what they want to talk about
Build a relationship with your neighbour. If you feel lonely, just grab a few fruits or snacks from your pantry and knock on their door saying you bought to much. You’ll win a smile and a nice yet short conversation. Do this a few times and suddenly they will do the same.
Yes, I also thought about it, but how embarrassing it is, but I think I will still try to do it, thanks!
Coolness is the enemy of social relationship. Be cringe and be free.
It is hard but quick. You don’t have to invite yourself to their home for coffee. Give them the snack, and go back quickly. You’ll ask for their name another time.
How about book clubs? I’m in a couple, and my neighborhood has monthly silent book clubs (bookended with socializing time). Both an opportunity to socialize during meetups, and a great way to occupy your time in between.
I post on Lemmy lol.
If you’re a bit of a nerd I suggest looking up local tabletop RPG groups and giving it a shot. It’s one of the easier ways to be social as an introvert. It has a sort of regimented system of socializing that everyone understands, with an end time and an obvious goal. Once I’m in a better spot myself (life has been rough the past bit but it’s looking up) I might do this myself.
But for now drinking and watching shows and shitposting on Lemmy still works for me lol. Used to post on Reddit, 100k+ karma there, Not banned, but I am sick of reddit’s BS, so now I’m here instead, sorry y’all.
PS: I’m staying at a monthly rate in a hostel, and I go to a couple local food banks. There’s a “free food” area in the communal kitchen that I stock up once or twice a week because where I live the food banks are extraordinarily generous.
People have started to notice and been thanking me, and as a result they’ve been striking up conversations and getting to know me. (I am very much an introvert.) So I’ve been socializing a lot more than I normally do as a result.
Too esoteric to recommend, but figured I’d add this random ass story as socializing can happen in the strangest of ways at times.
Weed was my replacement for socializing in the pandemic. Can’t recommend it, as it also ruined my motivation to go out, and I would avoid picking up the phone while high. These days I go out for a walk and talk to strangers about the weather instead of smoking. It’s been great, and I made a several friends in the process.
Well how do you like to spend your time? Finding people to share your hobbies with is a great way to build community
Today and in the future, it seems that this will have to be done offline, because the Internet has become like a titanic that sinks to the bottom after hitting an iceberg named AI.
But I understand what you mean.
Have you considered following a sport? Following local sports teams has always been an effective way to strike up a conversation for me. For one, it’s easy to identify who to talk to, since they wear apparel that identifies them as a fan of a team they follow, and also it’s really easy to know what they’re likely interested in talking about, since there are lots of resources (podcasts, broadcasts, blogs, etc) that direct the conversation. It’s super easy — I sat down on the bus yesterday across the aisle from someone in a Sounder’s hat and we talked the new Rothrock and Frei deals. I’ve never seen that dude before in my life and probably never will again, but finding common ground and something inoffensive to chat about was super easy because we follow the same team.
