I mean what Discords do you participate in? What Lemmy communities do you follow? What videos on YouTube do you like to watch?

You can reframe this and say, “I like to participate in online chat forums about the latest gaming news and technology (discord). I look for cool recipes and cooking techniques (Lemmy cooking community). And I love trying to find new funny comedians to listen to (YouTube).” I think if you narrow it down to the interests you enjoy, rather than “dicking around online” you’ll find that you have interesting things to talk about.

Obviously those examples are my own, but I’m sure you use those platforms because they feed you certain content that you enjoy.

So what do you like to do for fun? Or, What are some of your hobbies?

I find these much better than “so what do you do for work?”, which is what I’m asked constantly. “Yes, person who I don’t know, let me discuss work during my free time with you.”

This is a comment. Engage with it.

I’m not sure if this specifically applies, but there are federation issues happening across multiple instances.

Many issues have to do with a mismatch in Lemmy BE versions. Lemmy.ml is on 0.18, others are on 0.17.4 waiting for Capcha support to come in 0.18.1. BE 0.18 replaced websockets with http, so it’s a substantial update. How this works with kbin specifically I do not know, but things are in flux.

Additionally there is this issue:

https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/issues/3101

Which according to the devs is related to this other issue that has been fixed and will also likely come in 0.18.1

https://github.com/LemmyNet/activitypub-federation-rust/pull/52

So, I do not believe this is international. If lemmy.ml didn’t want to federate with kbin they would just defederate. With kbin being its own distinct software that is different than Lemmy, these issues are likely due to the drastic change in the last Lemmy update. Things will have to be ironed out between kbin and Lemmy