Oh she does it constantly with everyone 😂 she is aware, and is striving to do it less, but yeah, it’s all confidence.

She loves baking, for example, and is really good at it, but will apologise profusely for how bad they are before anyone has even tasted them. Perfectionism is absolutely a part of it, and I think that’s been imposed on her by her mum who is also a perfectionist and expects everyone else to be a perfectionist.

But yeah, were figuring it out 😊

I do experience a bit of the paradox of impatience:

“Sorry”

“Don’t be sorry”

“Are you angry?”

“I’m not angry”

“Did I do something wrong?”

"NO YOU DIDN’T DO ANYTHING WRONG FFS!!* 😂

Yeah, I know the struggle 😂

We’ve both been working on ourselves emotionally for a long time, so we spend a lot of time and energy trying to explore why we feel certain ways about different things, and then working together to try and help each other get to where we want to be.

I obviously have behaviours which I don’t like about myself which I’m working on, and she also has behaviours which she’s trying to work on. This is one of those areas where we’re trying to figure out together “how much apologising is too much?” as a general curiosity, rather than it being an actual problem.

Neither of us feel like we apologise enough, but I don’t get called out on how much I apologise, but she does. A lot of our friends and family often tell her she doesn’t need to apologise, or that she apologises too much! 😂

I understand why I don’t want her to do it, and it’s for many of the reasons you stated: perfectionism, people-pleasing, high social standards, fear of disappointment, etc. all of which can lead to her feeling sad, anxious, and over thinking every tiny detail which obviously isn’t good for mental health.

But to try and figure out how I physically and emotionally feel when I hear her say “sorry” is tricky. Do I get frustrated? Do I feel pity? Am I annoyed? Am I annoyed at her? (Obviously I’m not, but she often assumes I am)

I guess we’re just finding it interesting to work through that childish curiosity of answering the question “…but why?” from a perspective which isn’t as often looked through.

And thank you for the response! ❤️

They went around the horn like a real man!

Will they deport Lady Liberty? 😂

Yep… She’s got some great ‘depictions’ 👉😏👉

Always wanted a woman with a snake moustache!

Alligator can have the whole house, actually. It’s okay, I’ll move 👍

Is that mummy holding their gonads?

Billionaire can’t even get a well-fitting suit.

This is my take on it. That unexpected spike in the salary is slightly skewed stats from the billionaires with all the money and none of the knowledge.

Then it goes back down to nearly 0 where most of our average wages actually are.

Source: My source is that I made it the fuck up, but it’s certainly what it feels like when you see the clueless assholes with money and power.

I suddenly want to play Championship Manager. Couldn’t possibly tell you why.

The fact you’re on lemmy puts you in good company I believe. I, too, am fighting the chromium curse.

We’re in the same boat. We’re just waiting for an official moving date. We’ve been moving boxes today. Scary times doing grown up things.

Israel: bombs hostages

Israel when they rescue the hostages but they’re all dead:

You can tell that it is because of it wasn’t it would have the tobacco brand emblazoned all over it.

As if Marlboro would create a mascot that didn’t have their logo on it! They’re be walking down the street handing out packs of 20 to kids.

See you on the otter side 👌

I’ve been on Duolingo learning German for two months, and I’m happy as hell to know I understand most of this ❤️

Oh no…

Get

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Male: “I killed your son”

Female: “That’s so fucking hot”