*Get rid of Raspbian and install Raspberry Pi OS
In case you didn’t know, they’re the same thing: “Raspberry Pi OS” is just the newer name for it.
That said, the official instructions for upgrading to a new major version say to re-image your microSD anyway. So never mind; carry on!
Considering that it was about topology, that might very well be the smartest couple’s dispute I’ve ever heard of.