Option 3: I remember I don’t have to take sides?

Look for kindness. Look for a group trying to build something for others, not just tear something down or personal gain.

“Does this have anything to do with me?”

Most cases, the answer is no and I simply have to not care about it.

Kindness > assholes usually works for me if I can’t take the time to learn all the nuances but feel like I want to form an opinion.

I just ignore it until either things become clear or it blows over