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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • That’s one I used to hold until I went looking for studies on how smaller doses of alcohol impact a person’s driving ability. What I found was a linear, dose-dependent response with no real hard cutoffs. Driving is dangerous enough; there’s little benefit to making that worse by drinking beforehand.

    I might be OK with a reduced penalty at .08, but I’d like to add a slap on the wrist at an even lower level.


  • It’s OK not to know what you want. It’s especially OK when you’re 18 and in high school. It’s OK to choose an option now and change your mind later (though if you choose no, she probably won’t be available to you later if you change your mind).

    It’s even OK to tell her that you don’t want to talk about your relationship, but she’s probably going to take that as you not wanting to be in a relationship with her. If you don’t want her to take it that way, then you need to talk with her about your relationship even if the thing you have to say is you’re unsure. Of course there’s a good chance she’ll respond unfavorably to your uncertainty; most people don’t like being a second choice or a backup plan.


  • I’m seeing a little of what I’d describe as toxic monogamy in this question. That’s not to imply a monogamous relationship isn’t right for you; it’s what most people want, so just statistically, it’s probably what you and your girlfriend want.

    What I mean by toxic is that the belief that it’s unacceptable to be friends with an ex or that you can’t be in a relationship if your feelings for a former partner aren’t completely gone can poison relationships. People are usually more complicated than that, and while both of those things sometimes lead to problems, they don’t have to. Talking to your partner about their feelings surrounding the issue and agreeing on boundaries that are acceptable to both of you will prevent a lot of problems. That brings us to…

    she asked me about our relationship and I told her to stop talking about it

    I don’t usually like to speak in absolutes when it comes to human interactions because different people are different. I’ll make an exception here though. This was the wrong answer if you want to have a relationship with her.

    It’s still the wrong answer, and that’s where you left things. If you don’t want it to end there, your best chance is to tell her you know that was a mistake, apologize, and offer to talk about your relationship as much as she wants to.







  • 10%.

    • Chance he runs for vice president and wins, with the presidential candidate resigning promptly: 5%
    • Chance he cancels or significantly delays election: 3%
    • Chance he successfully refuses to leave office after election using force: 2%

    Here are all the ways that doesn’t happen:

    • Chance he dies of natural causes: 70% - it’s about one in three per year for a man in his early 80s, which would give us 1-0.66^4 = 81% for four years, but he has access to the best possible medical care
    • Chance he runs for vice president and wins, with the presidential candidate promising to resign promptly, and is betrayed: 10%
    • Chance he attempts to cancel or delay the election and fails: 10%
    • Chance he refuses to leave office after election and is removed: 10%

    These things have a less than 1% chance:

    • Constitutional amendment
    • Supreme court allows him to run for a third term in violation of the unambiguous text of the constitution




    1. People install communication apps because someone they want to communicate asks/tells them to. I don’t want to use Slack, but people who pay my bills use Slack, so I use Slack. I use Matrix too because I believe in it philosophically, but the UX is a little rough and very few conversations I want to have are actually taking place there.
    2. I don’t really understand this one. Adblockers are relatively easy to install and the modern web sucks without them.
    3. I haven’t encountered much of this in a long time, but familiar feels safe to people. Something they haven’t heard of might feel sketchy.
    4. This sounds like someone trying to persuade you to install an app because you using it would be convenient for them.


  • You can’t middle-click them because they aren’t links. That is to say, they are not a elements but div elements with an added click event handler that navigates to another page. There’s a case to be made for doing things like that on a website that’s trying to behave like a native application, but Ebay fundamentally behaves like a website and building its navigation this way is bad design.


  • I think the the least amount of BS from a major camera company is probably Panasonic:

    • Panasonic uses two lens mounts (micro four thirds and L-mount), both of which are shared with other body and lens manufacturers
    • Old bodies get firmware updates
    • Features are rarely artificially restricted for market segmentation
    • Third parties have written apps to talk to Panasonic cameras

    The biggest downside to the brand is that until very recently, Panasonic bodies had only contrast-detection autofocus, which can pulse if used in video and doesn’t track moving subjects very well.