I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.
It’s January 1st, 1970 no matter who (or what) asks
Those that know, know. I don’t like the extra attention on an arbitrary day. I also don’t message people happy birthday. Only if I see you in person or you’re my wife and I’m away.
I hate birthdays so I am OK with everyone forgetting
I barely remember my birthday.
I think the last time I celebrated any holiday was buying some champagne when Kissinger died.
My birthday I keep to myself and whoever remembers remembers haha.
I used to forget others birthdays but the people who matter most to me I’ve made the effort to remember as best I can. Last year I started putting birthdays into my calendar as a recurring event so I don’t miss them. I just set a reminder a week or two prior if I want time to get a gift!
If they’re close friends and family I definitely expect them to remember. It’s a good indicator of who I can trust in my life as well, those who usually remember just also happen to be on the trustworthy list.
We’ve been debating whether someone remembering a birthday is a reflection of how much they care or not.
For me it correlates so yes. I’m not saying one is necessarily caused by the other.
Conversely, I set up birthday reminders for the people I care about.
I don’t celebrate my birthday and I don’t tell people my birthday unless it’s required for something.
I couldnt care less. I never understood how people would be angry at others for forgetting their birthdays. Its just a damn anniversary…
I guess it also depends on culture. In Latinamerica many people consider birthdays a big deal so forgetting it would be considered a faux pas.
For me personally I care if my partner and close friends remember, coworkers, my dentist, etc. I don’t give a damn but if they so happen to congratulate me or send a gift or whatever, I thank them graciously and try to correspond in the same manner when it is theirs.
For example, my yoga teacher found out about my birthday because SO sent me flowers to the studio so I could enjoy myself starting the day, so said teacher gifted me a box of my favorite incense. It was a nice touch but definitely due to circumnstances. I enjoyed it nevertheless. So now I will be getting her a nice beautiful plant for her balcony.
I try to be fair, and since I don’t remember others people’s birthdays, I don’t mind if anyone (other than my family) remembers mine.
Let them know for those that I want to know get together with. Otherwise if they remember … great, if not no big deal.
I hope they forget my birthday. Me too, thanks.
I share my birthday with my mom and son, which makes it easy for everyone to remember.
I don’t want to be celebrated, so it’s up to other folks if they want to celebrate my birthday. I’m certainly not going to remind them.
My friends know, and we usually get together and play games on a day designated as my birthday. It’s usually on the weekend before or after the actual day. As for remembering, if you know someone well enough to be present at their birthday, just write it down. You all have phones, don’t you? Honestly though, the older I get, the less it has mattered. It’s really just an excuse for us to get together. My wife gets me something sweet (usually a cinnamon roll), everyone sings “happy birthday” and we go back to whatever game is on the table. It’s nice to be thought of, but mostly I just want to be with friends and family.
