Hell no, but physical disability… I live in the USA where disability seems like a homelessness death sentence
Yeah, by a long shot. We didn’t have a lot growing up but my parents made sure I went to school.
Oh, no. Hella worse. They were solidly middle class with two solid careers at this point. And kids, but I don’t want that part so that’s a wash. But nicer house, nicer stuff entirely. But me and my husband are in a better place relationship wise so I got that over them??
My parents had a mortgage; car loans; and 4 children at my age, while I struggle to maintain employment and don’t qualify for any type of financing because of it and all this despite having a very high demand skillet in tech; I’m not only doing worse than my parents, but worse than most of my peers.
To be fair: I don’t fit the stereotype of an autistic person so people presume I’m neurotypical and that keeps long term employment out of reach for me.
I cannot own my own house. Something about I don’t earn enough.
I am allowed to pay rent at nearly double what a mortgage would be and this is financially allowed.
Yes and no. I probably am a bit better off than my parents, but they raised 4 kids and I raised none. My Mom was mostly stay at home (went back to work after all us kids moved out). My spouse has a good career, which is an added bonus.
Yes.
I have a home, a good job, and am able to save enough that it’s possible I may be able to retire in my fifties.
The only responsible decision my parents made was to pay off their house. They had over a dozen kids and my dad literally roofed houses until he couldn’t anymore physically. They’re now in their 80’s and driving for DoorDash, in a car they’ve “borrowed” from me for almost a year, that I’m certain I’m never getting back.
And, somehow, despite having no mortgage or car payment, they still aren’t paying their bills on time. (But, to be fair, that’s also a referendum on the US economy and capitalism in general, and none of us can get actual progressives elected.)
Sounds like my parents. I am younger but my dad is a alcoholic and drug addict that pissed away his retirement. He’s 63 and just getting out of rehab for the 50th time.
Yeah, mine was an alcoholic for 25 years but inexplicably quit cold turkey one day when I was a teen.
I think it’s just a ton of undiagnosed, untreated mental illness. My mom’s mother was abusive and her loving father died when she was a teen. My dad’s dad died when he was eleven and he became the breadwinner for his mom and siblings, and didn’t stop working for another sixty-five years. (Well, he drives for DoorDash now, so I suppose he’s still working, but it’s a far cry from roofing.)
I actually feel a little bad for my dad. He worked his ass off his whole life and has almost nothing to show for it, but somehow, could never put his foot down when it came to my mom and adding more kids to the family. In most other countries his lifetime of work and owning a business would have meant a comfortable retirement, but not here. In America, no one gives a fuck.
No, not even close.
Yes, because I didn’t have kids. Also, I’m in a happy partnership.
However the world was in a better place then, so I feel like I’m mentally in a worse place probably.
The world was always a shitty place, we are definitely facing new and frightening challenges but they can be overcome it will just be difficult.
Part of me wants to think so; I’m making a lot more money than they did at my age, even accounting for inflation. Aside from my car note, I’m debt-free. All objectively good things.
They had each other though. I’m a few years older than they were when they had their first kid, and they’d been married for a few years before that. I’m alone, and after I had some bad experiences, I don’t bother with dating. Whether that’s “better” than what my parents did or not, I don’t think it’s fair for me to decide.
My parents had three kids and owned a 150 m² house in the countryside. I earn more than they used to and I’m renting a single room in a house with four flatmates.
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Definitely. We lived in an old house without central heating, and I know what hunger is. My father died when I was a kid, after a long sickness, and taking care of him and us kids took a lot out of mum.
Now I can support my family from my income, with both kids at unversity without debts.
Yes, we are better off. But the way to here and now was hard.
Yes! But it’s because our situations are very different. I don’t have a child, but I was already a preteen when my mom was this age. I didn’t have a deadbeat, abusive, drug addicted, , money draining spouse. I’ve cut off people (family) that I saw take advantage of my mother growing up. I don’t have a sibling who is a manipulative, selfish, lazy, money grubbing piece of shit. Fuck, I don’t have a daughter (me) that I’ve had to help for years while she tried to get on her feet.
I also have a wonderful mother who did what she could to set me up for success, trying to correct the mistakes of her childhood. My great aunt left me some money that helped with school (I’m still in debt, but could have been way worse). I have a good friend that talks me out of reckless shit, not egging me on to take advtage.
I’m also less social, so I’m not going out to lunch or parties and what have you. I live alone with one cat.
TL;DR: Yes, but is because I have less responbilities than my mother had at this age, and it’s cheaper living a solitary lifestyle with one kitty cat.
Kind of? My dad died before he was my age and my mom told me “he died and I’d never had that much money in my life and all I wanted was him.”
So financially I’m worse off than my mom was, but in other (and probably more important) ways, better off. And certainly better off than my dad.
