I’ve had female friends and I’ve had male friends but for some reason I’ve noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?

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        IDK if it’s an easy way to remember or not, but the way I think about it is then relates to time, than relates to a comparison.

        Their relates to ownership. There relates to direction. They*'re* relates to describing (that’s probably the easiest as the apostrophe tells you it is a shortened version of two words, “they are”)

        To actually answer your question though I can only relate to my personal experience and say no, as a man the men I know don’t express emotion that well and we aren’t that “close.” The women I’ve known tend to be much closer to their friends, but my experience is limited there.

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    I’m generally more open with female friends than male friends. There’s one friend that I’ve become more open with but that’s because we’ve been friends for over 15 years. Growing up taught me that showing emotion was weak and not what I was supposed to do. I was very sensitive as a kid and learned to hide and intellectualize my feelings rather than feel them

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    Not true for all but true for most.

    However let’s make a difference between being close and being intimate; females are usually more intimate than males or at least open up more quickly on personal topics. Gay/bi males are also like this.

    As for closeness though, I don’t think there is much of a difference between sex/gender/sexual orientation. I’ve found bros sticking together and backing up each other the same as girls do if not more.

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    My friends’ humour is extremely homoerotic and we constantly simulate gay sex (as a joke)

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    I try to be that open with my good dude friends, but I only have a couple I’d consider good. Most are superficial friendships based on a single common interest.

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    I think it would be hard to nail down the overall demeanor. Of course there’s the stereotype that men are closed up emotionally and sometimes male toxicity enforces that, but I think it really just comes down to how people develop emotionally and if they feel secure to trust others with those emotions.

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      Not really. It’s been 70/30. I have some male friends and there pretty intimate. Always doing things like slapping my butt and giving me sexual compliments/wolf whistling at me. At first it was pretty awkward then I thought to myself “what’s the problem?” There only complimenting you and there not exactly wrong😏.

      But now I don’t know if there just being friendly or if there flirting with me. I’ve had women say similar things to me before.

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    yes, we’re not all incels and taters and fundamentalist wannabe strong men